One of the biggest battles that I have personally faced, and that many of my clients also face is being 'too much'.
*Too intuitive (no one wants to know you know!)
*Too 'out there'
*Too much of a dreamer
*Too 'drama' free
*Too different in perspective
As I wrote that list, I thought of my some of my beautiful empathetic, intuitive, creative friends and clients that I know. I also thought of all of the shaming that I have 'heard' when people say these words.
I for one, put my hand up, and say that I still battle with being 'too much'. A huge part of me would love to be more normal (whatever that actually is). I know it is such a big unspoken wound for so many of my beautiful clients.
By naming these, and by digging these 'too much' shaming from the depths, it unleashes us to actually be all of that and more.
I want to hold a candle in the darkness for this pain, and for the shame and the hurt and the subtle humiliation that you may have faced over the years.
I know how hard it is to see things differently, to feel things intensely, to 'speak' energy, to 'read' energy, and to see more then what a lot of others do.
If you are feeling this, please feel free to reach out.
I am passionate about holding a beautiful hammock of love and gentle light around you as you feel safe to explore and be more of who you are on your 'big' and beautiful soul level.
With so much love
ASKING FOR WHAT IT IS THAT WE WANT
As Intuitives sometimes we (falsely) believe that others are like us and 'just know' what we need.
I've had clients say that without doing this work their marriages would have crumbled or soured, friendships would have become rotten or held on for far too long in the hope of repair.
I love working with 'ASKING FOR WHAT YOU NEED' because this has been huge for me in my marriage, my beautiful sacred friendships, in parenting and in my business. It's literally been life-changing.....
I'd love to hear any thoughts that come up for you as you read this.
I have space for 30 minute Complimentary Soul Sessions to feel in to working together.
When we are going through growth, something can happen which can be disconcerting and almost derail our self growth efforts.
I've seen this so much for myself, and for my clients that I wanted to call it out.
This is when our energy becomes fragmented as we exist in two realities.
One is the energy of our every increasing truth, and the other is our "old energy"
For example = We've recognised a pattern where we over-care for others and we become conscious of this everywhere. We set out to now bring that care back in to our hearts. As we do this our new upgraded energy begins to become angry when we give away our energy willy-nilly. However our old energy feels guilty about this new way of being. This sets up a state of energetic fragmentation where we almost become at war with ourselves.
The way to bring coherence in to our being is almost always the same. It requires:
1) Compassionate witnessing - "Okay I can now hear and see my old ways getting louder before they finally die".
2) Patience and support - a safe place to let all of this be heard and seen. Someone who is able to fully allow the 'cringe-factor' to be witnessed.
3) Energy work - embodiment is important. I love tapping to really move the energy in to new neural pathways, or anything that shifts the energy in the body. Yoga, intuitive dance, grounding, swimming, massage, energy body work.
4) Self love - Maybe this pattern has been a soul pain point for many life times. This is not a time to judge ourselves when we get the wobbles, or when our outer world suddenly seems discombobulated. This is a time to gently tend to the part of ourselves that needs care and attention. It WILL almost always be wobbly when we upgrade. It's not always dainty and graceful....sometimes it is downright painful.
5) Nuturing the pain - Gently loving our inner child and talking to her and letting her know that its okay to grow and to change (sometimes it is far more comfortable to hold on to uncomfortable emotions then to grow in to the unknown).
I love providing this space to walk over the holy bridge towards more integration and energetic coherence for my clients.
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The Persecution Wound - and an AMAZING client story (shared with permission)
Many of you will resonate with the 'persecution wound'.
This is the wounding that we carry inter-generationally in our D.N.A from past generations who were literally persecuted for 'speaking up', 'being different', 'being healers', 'visionaries', 'creativies' and 'wise people'.
Myself and so many of my wise, beautiful clients carry this wounding in ways that are often deeply unconscious.
The persecution wound plays out by: keeping us quiet, shuts down our intuition, makes us distrust our inner creativity, makes it hard for us to be in our soul biz if it requires being 'seen' 'heard' and putting our neck out.
Because deep within our being we believe it is not safe, that we may even be rejected, abandoned, run out of town or even killed.
I worked with a truly magical client last week who is opening up beautifully to trusting her inner knowing. We had been working on helping her to access and trust her inner knowing (in her case - clear hearing or clairaudience).
She specifically heard a message to contact someone regarding a job. Immediately things flowed and the person said "omg we were just talking about you and would like to give you the job".
The only thing was that because of her deep persecution wounding, when her inner knowing voice became stronger she suddenly became terrified that her 'gifts wouldn't be valued'
We went back to a past life where she was burnt to death(she could smell the fire). Burnt for being a wise woman, burnt for her gifts.
As soon as she made the correlation with this life time, and we did some E.F.T tapping she could feel the emotion lift.
After our session she turned on the radio and guess what song was playing???
"You can do magic. You can do anything that you desire. Magic....don't you know you're the one who can put out the fire"
Wow - I am just blown away by the magic that is unfolding and the truly beautiful souls that are reclaiming their soul gifts to emerge even more fully in to this new earth.
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Building the foundation of a sacred and safe inner home within your heart, whilst navigating our sacred relationships.
*Honouring the sacred role of feminine friendships and sacred relationships, and how deeply we can grieve the changes that can happen within these.
*Honouring how hurt, rejected, sad, fearful, competitive, jealous and all the other myriad of shadowed emotions that we can easily shame, shadow and push down within us.
*Acknowledging the sweet nectar of these emotions and what they are here to show us. All of them having such beautiful contrast in them.
*Validating our own feelings - having our own feelings and emotions recognised as valid. It is okay to feel hurt. It is okay to feel rejected. It is okay to feel angry.
*As empaths we are amazing at validating everyone else's experiences but our own. This is part of the return home is allowing ourselves to honour our own hearts.
*Tuning in to create and recognise our own sacred boundaries that feel fun, safe, like home, and that return us further to our own hearts.
*Finding our sacred voice and knowing when to speak up, how to speak up in a way that nutures and nourishes us and that feels in alignment with who we are, knowing when to stay quiet, and when to turn inwards.
*Learning to listen to the beat of our gentle guide within our heart as to how we navigate and communicate our soft fragile and vulnerable wobbly parts of ourselves in a way that is deeply resonant with our gentle hearts.
This process often feels like a new foal taking its first few wobbly steps as we learn to really honour our hearts, hold our own feelings in as much love as we offer others, and begin to find our voice that allows us to feel heard, held and safe.
Knowing that we have this safety within us, and a voice that we can use when we need to offers us a sacred home within ourselves that can never be taken away.
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Man alive! Life as an intuitive empath can be exhausting....if you don't know that you are an empath and if you don't know how to handle energy.
Here's a list of my TOP 10 Energy Truth bombs for all empaths out there.
Can you relate gorgeous.....????
Empaths and Sensitives
1) Get drained easily by negative, dramatic people (and try at all costs to avoid them)
2) Avoid crowds
3) Find noisy places exhausting
4) Can't be doing shopping malls (even the food shopping can be an energy overwhelm)
5) Need a LOT of quiet time by yourself
6) Desperately need your own SPACE
7) Can't have anyone too close within your personal space
8) People always tell your their deepest secrets (if you had a dollar for every time some one said you are the only person that I've told this to....or I don't know why I'm telling you this)
9) Love nature, nature, nature
10)Have to refuel by being in your own energy.
If any of these resonate you are not alone. Empaths and sensitives are becoming more and more common as we all shift and rise in consciousness.
Tips to manage your energy
1) Frequent time to you - guilt free! Being an empath is the way that you are built - and your soul battery literally needs it.
2) Meditation - connect in with the one true endless ongoing power source of energy by connecting with the divine.
3) Cleansing - Sage your self, your space, let the windows be open. Ask your guides and angels to clear you and your space
4) "No" is a complete sentence. Ditch the guilt and put yourself first.
5) Commit to yourself and your energy - My biggest commitment is to me first and foremost. If my energy isn't right, I will cancel commitments without any guilt these days. Sorry but I am number one.
6) Guard your light - I don't care if they are your family, or your long term friends ......be totally fine with not answering the phone, walking away, saying "sorry I've got to go" and guarding your light. Dramatic energy vampires who are not prepared to look at themselves and do their own soul work are toxic to empaths and not your responsibility.
7) Get on to the earth and group, connect, ask the trees to clear your energy field.
8) Only be around people who uplift you, support you, encourage you and value and respect your time and your energy.
9) If a friendship is 'all about them'....walk away or tell them that you expect them to show equal interest in you and your life otherwise you are not interested (if that's too hard minimize all contact and have clear time frames around how much time you will talk on the phone or be around them)
10) Recognize that you are different from some people. That being an EMPATH is different. It is a very real thing to be drained by other peoples energy and that as an empath you must value and support your own energy field. Your energy is just too precious to be 'used' by other people.
Every single soul on the planet has the ability to connect in with their own direct source to the divine. You are not here to rescue another person, be someone's toxic dumping ground, be emotionally manipulated or blackmailed by another, or to save anyone.
The greatest, most wonderful gift, you give to the world, is to love yourself by taking care of you.
Thank you precious, sensitive soul.
I know how harsh the energies of this world at times are and fully and deeply respect your loving beautiful heart.
Gilly Godward is an Intuitive Soul Mentor and Energy healer who uses her soul gifts to help people be free of their old unconscious stories and energy and to become lighter, and free.
YOUR SENSITIVITY IS A BEAUTIFUL THING
Short of living in a beautiful remote isolated spot away with just your pets (which sometimes appeals way too much to me)
We empaths often need a few comforting tools to help us along the journey.
These are some of the things that I use for myself and for my clients….
I hope you will find some comfort here knowing that you are one of the very special sensitive ones, that your empathy and sensitivity is exactly what the world needs and is an incredible soul-gift.
ADVOCATING FOR OUR SENSITIVE HEARTS
One of the hardest things as sensitive, empathic beings is standing up for yourself, and advocating for your own heart
Honestly, this has been one of the biggest parts of my journey, and something that I am still learning.
As Empaths we...
*Enjoy harmonious relationships and want to sprinkle magic fairy dust and love everywhere
*Are naturally conflict adverse
*By nature feel energy much more intensely - so find being around conflict an actual physical experience.
Let me give you an example:
When I was 10 a teacher told a friend and I off. She was yelling at us and naturally I cried (that is my nature). My friend on the other hand was able to quietly and concisely advocate for her own heart and stand up to the teacher in a strong and empowered way. .
That's the thing.
Because of our different natures, my friend was able to remain calm and centered.
I on the other hand could feel the teachers energy like a tidal wave of emotion that flooded every cell of my body.
So how do we handle conflict and advocate for our sensitive hearts:
*Avoidance and getting out of there.... two strategies which pretty much every sensitive has used!!!
*Giving love to our gentle hearts. Much of the return home to our own inner strength is about reclaiming our sensitivity as a super power.
*Learning some energy protection methods.
*Practice out loud advocating for our hearts. Look in the mirror and say
"Don't stand so close to me"
"I don't like it when you speak to me like that"
"Stop it, I don't like it"
I recently had a young client who had a situation that called for advocacy of her own gentle heart.
We practiced this new way of advocating for her own heart and wowser the shift in her energy! #powerhouse
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Self promotion can seem like the scariest concept for my tribe of Gentle hearted Soulpreneurs.
I have had to battle some MAMMOTH inner demons to come to a place of 'relative' comfort around Self Promotion.
Here are 5 Tips that have really helped me to understand this:
1) YOU ARE NOT ALONE
OMG you are so not alone Sister! Nearly every single one of my clients deals with there own "Self Promotion Blocks" in one way or another.
I've listed the most common blocks that I have heard with clients and also blocks I've had myself to let you see that you are truly not alone......
I'm not enough
What will people think of me?
Random Self-defeating talk and feel free to add your own here!
Perfectionism - Procrastiperfectionism
Did anything resonate here?
May be you have your own list!
You get the picture though don't you honey...the self-talk around Self-Promotion can be pretty heavy and pretty self-defeating.
So what can we do about this:
STEP ONE - Acknowledge the feelings and thoughts:
Rather then suppress these feelings, or label them as 'bad'....give yourself time to allow these feelings to surface to the top of your mind, and give them some air time.
To enable you to acknowledge the feelings, or the shadow, it is sometimes helpful to have an Intuitive Soul-Biz Mentor like me - who can quickly discern your self sabotage and bring gentle, playful, light and depth to this.
By joining a group like the Superstars group you also get to hear not only your own self-sabotage but also see other people's shadow mirrored back to you.
Basically let those inner self-sabotage thoughts about Self Promoting be acknowleged so that they can't run the show.
STEP TWO - SHIFT THE ENERGY
*Tapping is brilliant to shift the energy. You can easily make up your own script by just tapping as you say your 'story' out loud. Let all of those feelings be heard with no judgement. You may even find your self giggling at the absurdity of them.
*Acknowledge that these feelings are coming from a place of Fear and the Ego voice which is set up to keep us safe.
*Realise that these thoughts are often where you go under stress. You can acknowledge that they are there but not live in 'fear town' all the time.
*Come up with a positive affirmation to use so that you can own your new energy. Some that I like are
"It is safe for me to shine"
"As I shine, I give others permission to also shine"
"It is my time to shine"
"It is my light that frightens me"
STEP THREE - REALISE IT ISN'T ABOUT YOU
When I feel fear about self promoting, I often put my hand on my heart and say "Gilly Godward, it is NOT about you"
This helps to take me out of the ego voice (above) and focus instead on sharing what I know to help others.
Just by shifting the focus to thinking that there is just 'one person that I can help' changes the energy.
I'd love for you to try this and see what happens.
STEP FOUR - FIND YOUR HAPPY PLACE WITH PROMOTION
Finding your happy place with self-promotion is crucial to success for the heart-centered soulpreneur.
There are a million ways to get your message out there then find what feels really comfortable to you, and do it consistently.
Some of you will feel most comfy sharing your light by blogging, others by facebook lives, or youtube, instagram, linkedin, networking groups, newspaper print, advertorials, television, magazine articles. For some people it's in the flesh networking, for others (like me) that is their idea of hell in a handbag.
For me I tend to get overwhelmed by big crowds of people and have trouble remembering peoples name so networking groups aren't the best.
However I find it effortless to do a facie live, and love facebook so tend to do most of my promo there. It's just easy to me.
In saying that, I am making myself do more of the in person networking as I love challenging myself and growing. Basically I approach it as an exercise in self-development and have become a little more comfortable in the discomfort.
STEP 5 - CONGRATULATE YOURSELF EVERY STEP OF THE WAY
Every time I do any form of self promotion I give myself a high five.
As a solopreneur there is often no one to congratulate you apart from yourself, so just make sure that you do it a LOT.
Have a couple of great friends that can also give you a high five to help you celebrate overcoming those (very real) blocks to self promotion.
Come and join us in the Superstars Group so that you have a group of awesome soulpreneurs to cheer you along, and remind you of your greatness when you have forgotten it.
Lastly, have FUN WITH THE EXPERIENCE.
Many others have gone before you, and if you talk to them, they have ALL felt the same way.
It's easy to look at other successful women and think "Oh it's easy for them", but believe me girlfriend from all of the amazing women that I have coached over the years, I know that self-promotion is one of the hardest things of all.
I'd love to hear your thoughts about this and for you to comment below.
Lots of hugs and love......
p.s) Tell me when you have done a self-promo and I will do an air high five with you gorgeous Superstar!
THE EPIDEMIC OF LONELINESS & DISCONNECTION
Years ago, I remember standing in my kitchen and crying.
I had everything. A beautiful loving family, amazing soul friends and yet still feeling a deep thud of disconnection and what I term 'soul homesickness'.
This deep yearning within me to feel that sense of home and love that I know exists beyond this realm ...unconditionally.
It was like a grief and an ache in my soul.
Now I know that it was me calling myself home. Calling myself to 'commune' with myself.
It was an ache that couldn't be soothed by being around people. In fact this made it worse. I would often feel lonely in a crowded room.
We often hear about this 'epidemic of loneliness', and how our brains are hard-wired for 'community'.
I believe that it isn't about racing out and joining clubs, as UNTIL you turn inwards and apply the own balm that you are craving to yourself first, you will always be left aching.
If you are a highly sensitive, heart-centered being, like me, you would definitely have had your sensitive heart shut down at some point in your life.
This often makes us disconnect from our deep feelings and not feel safe to be seen for who we truly are.
From my own experience, what I learnt is that when I stopped rejecting the parts of myself that I was holding in judgement like being so sensitive, being an intuitive healer, I felt like I was missing something. That was ME!
I became almost giddy with joy when I realised that all I so deeply desired was within me.
Self compassion, being witnessed, discernment about who I shared my heart with all were beautiful jewels that helped the process..
Now, I have fallen so deeply in love with my own energy, that everywhere I go, I am with my own best friend. Me!
I adore helping others to really deeply commune with their own heart. To be witnessed in love for the parts of themselves that they often judge and to become filled to the brim with their own love.
Magical and miraculous things come from this space......