Many an Empath will know this one well:
Whilst on the face of it, this may look like a very noble, kind and loving thing to do, this is in fact a way that we abandon ourselves in order to help, heal or please others over and above ourselves.
In the process of abandoning ourselves, we actually leave our energetic bodies and become so enmeshed in another persons energy, that we leave ourselves wide open for our energy to be filled.
There are ways that we can help others without abandoning ourselves:
1) Be in your own physical body - When you are talking to someone , start to check in with yourself. You can do this by feeling in to your own physical body. Wiggle your toes or move any part of your body, rub your arm, rub your hands together.
2) Avert your eyes - Take a moment to close your eyes, blink, look away, and break eye contact.
3) Breathe - If in doubt breathe out.....long and strong and loud.
4) Keep checking in with yourself energetically - Ask yourself "how is this feeling for you". If you get a negative response...take heed and excuse yourself to the bathroom, or to make a call.
5) Take your time to respond - The 'people pleaser' within the Empath can make us strongly desire to make another feel good, at the detriment of ourselves. Rather then rushing in and agreeing with the person, take a moment to check in with your own truth.
6) Have a daily practice - Place your hand on your heart and say to yourself "(Your name) I will never abandon you ever again. I am always here for you" This creates a powerful energy within us so that we know that no matter what is occurring around us, we know that WE are safe!
Once we begin to develop this relationship within our own hearts, and with our own inner child, letting her know that we will NEVER abandon her energetically, physically or emotionally, it sets up a strong inner trust within ourselves.
Of course, just like everything, this will often feel like it is becoming tested as we become conscious of it.
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