Pleasure as a portal

Pleasure - the fine art of "Pleasing you" Mmmmmm! If you want to TRIGGER the fk out of the feminine especially say the word pleasure! You will feel base chakras tightening in their defence mechanism everywhere! The wounding around matyrdom, hyper-independence, hard work and distrust of the masculine will all come out to play. 

I'm here to stand up for pleasure and sing out loud that pleasure is a portal! A portal that has been denied and shut down, but which is now opening back up. Pleasure changes everything!

Here's a client story (shared with permission).
My client was nearly at burn out. When she came to see me she was 'working hard', really didn't have any joy in her life, wasn't having any sex or self pleasure, looked older then her years, and was getting constantly sick. It took time to allow in the concept of pleasure in to her life. The wounding and her programming that she had heard constantly when she was young was 'you have to work hard to get what you want".

This had made her amazing at being in her masculine and at doing all of the things, but hadn't allowed her to have any relationship whatsoever with her inner feminine, or to open up to receiving. This was evident in all of her relationships where she rushed around helping family and friends, and then became resentful when she required help as she never got any support.

As we worked with her old programmes, she began to get conscious of the ways that she was creating her life. She began to find a new place inside of her of safety around allowing herself to be supported, to receive and to experience pleasure in all of its forms. This was life changing! She even began to start doing things that she enjoyed! No longer bitter and resentful as she was taking care of her own pleasure this started to over flow in to her whole life. 

The pleasure she began to give herself started out with small things like taking time to be with her hands around a hot cup of coffee, the breeze on her face. She began to say no to people (oh la la that is just soooo sexy!!! ) and take time time for herself, putting herself first. Then as she unlocked the pleasure door she began to experience a level of pleasure that she had never known. It radiated out from her, changing how she looked, her whole energy field and her 'presence' and ability to connect in with the divine. 

The conditioning around pleasure is so insidious. We've really been sold a "hot lie" in terms of denying ourselves pleasure. 

Where I see the wounding play out the most in the feminine is here

• Working so hard that you have no time for yourself or anything that gives you pleasure, joy, fun
• Eating in a way that is so restrictive that it lacks any joy
• Moving our bodies in ways that are forceful, unkind and lacking in self love 
• Being Molly Matyr and putting everyone's needs above our own (here's your dinner with a side of resentment).
• Feeling like you can't trust the masculine energy to support them. 
• Denying time to rest and shaming ourselves if  we do. 
• Feeling GUILTY for spending money on yourself, taking time out, or for doing things that you love or even meditating!!!  Just guilt guilt guilt guilt guilt.

The antidote to this is to:

• Become conscious of these old outdated stories that are often running you around allowing in pleasure. These are collective conditioning stories that are crumbling to the ground. 
• Releasing SHAME around pleasure. It ain't a sin to receive pleasure and to give yourself pleasure people! 
• Allow yourself to become conscious of your DESIRES. This one is SOOOOO big! Most people don't even know what they want because they feel so unworthy of receiving it. 
• Have a daily ritual of self pleasure. Make it a priority. Maybe that is the hot cup of coffee, or the sunshine on your face, the earth beneath your feet or a beautiful cosmic orgasmic moment in any way shape or form (yes yes yes yessssss!) 

In my own life,  opening up to allowing in more pleasure has been so life changing. As a Scorpion, I've always been hot on pleasure as one of lives greatest gifts, and find myself now calling myself a pleasure witch! I've had to become conscious of many old programmes that I was running around allowing myself time, rest, space, my desires and am now deeply embedded in pleasure and joy as being a huge part of my life. 

If you read this and find yourself feeling triggered, that's okay honey heart. These wounds are deeply embedded in our society and it can be hugely annoying to see them bought to light. 

What if you could allow in just a flicker of things that light you up, turn you on, make you fizzy and do them again and again and again and again and again.....then what if you could couple that with your strong intentional desires?This is the pleasure portal where we bring together pleasure, desire and watch those dreams come true. 

Breathing here with you as we all collectively rise back up in to pleasure. 

Love
Gilly