People pleasing to pleasing ourselves

PEOPLE PLEASING to PLEASING YOURSELF

As gentle hearts, our energy and emotions are often more tuned in to pleasing others, and keeping other people comfortable, then pleasing ourselves.

For many years I put others needs and emotions before myself - not even realising that I could put myself in the picture.

Do you relate?

In Business: I used to over accommodate my clients, try and create offerings in my business that would keep 'everyone happy' ....except for me!
This is nothing to be ashamed of, as it is endemic amongst heart-centered women.

On the face of it, people-pleasing appears noble, but energetically it can leave us burn out, exhausted, angry and wondering why everyone else is happy apart from us! 

People pleasing may happens when we are:

• Conflict adverse - not able to be present to the stronger emotions of others or within in ourselves.
• When we want harmony all the time as a way to avoid feeling.
• A need to control the environment
• A deep desire to be loved by others, as we haven't returned to our own hearts.
• Being out of our body energetically - ungrounded.
• Being more in tune with others pain, discomfort, fear which means we are led by others energy before our own.
• When we don't know who we are, or what pleases us, and we pretzel ourselves to accommodate others.
• When we have been in 'caring' roles as young children and believe that 'caring' for others first is the way we receive love.
• Not truly understand our Empath nature

This is the work that I do with clients to help them to feel fully supported in gently returning back to their own hearts .

I want you to know that it is okay, and actually vital, to please yourself first, even when it feels deeply uncomfortable, and confronting. 

Love to hear your thoughts about this....