What about me? How Anne-Marie's updated boundaries helped her

Anne-Marie was the eldest of five children and was the ‘care-taker’. Her parents were kind and loving, but one of her parents could be quite manipulative, and play the victim card in order to get there needs met.

Over the years, Anne-marie naturally slipped in to the role of the care-taker, fixer and rescuer in her relationships.

Within her marriage she was the one who ‘took care of everything’. Like many of my clients she was also in a position of responsibility with her work. She was great at solving problems, sorting things out, and being highly intuitive she was also able to discern what people required - often before they even knew that they did.

What happens to a lot of my clients is that after years of taking care, rescuing, and care-taking they begin to get resentful.

The background song to this chapter could be “What about me?”

And rightly so! 

You count, and you are worthy of being looked after, just like everybody else.

My client was resistant to inner child work. She held firmly to the belief that her childhood had been great and she had nothing to complain about. 

Whilst her childhood, like yours, may have been great on many levels, it is a classic Empath thing to minimise your own experiences, and maximises everybody elses pain. 

My client believed that she had been treated fairly as a child. As we gently gazed in, it became clear to her that she had in fact been treated like an adult, been given huge responsibilities of looking after her siblings and taking on adult-like tasks, and was not allowed to be a child and just have fun.

Fun - yes people FUN! 

Updating her boundaries was a big part of this work as energetically she was becoming depleted, resentful and burnt out. 

Where does this resonate for you?

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